Unblur the lines

So I thought it would be fun to watch the VMA’s with my children last week. My kids are at an age when they are just discovering popular music. They’ve set aside “The Lion King” for “whatever is on Kiss 108.” Over the course of the summer, listening to the popular songs on the radio in the car has actually given us a good opportunity to start talking about some important issues: gender stereotypes, commercialism, appropriate and inappropriate language. 

I regretted my decision to watch the VMAs with them as soon as Miley Cyrus took the stage. It was the costume. Everything about it was disturbing (to me and to my children, interestingly. They found it “sad.”) We turned the channel before the performance reached its nadir. But I’ve since seen the video of it, and am actually heartened by the controversy it stirred. I guess I’m not the only person in America who felt it crossed the line (well, a handful of lines, really). Watching it brought back memories of sitting in an auditorium in Madison, Wisconsin in 1990 watching the documentary “Killing Us Softly” and thinking, “I’m so glad our society is so much more aware now of the objectification of women. I’m sure things will be much better for my daughter someday….”

Lots has been written about the VMA performance. But I want to draw your attention to this blog posting by a Lutheran pastor. He rightly points out that  blaming the female performer is an inadequate response, and that all of us who are parents, especially those who parent boys, have a role to play in creating a culture where the strength, dignity, and agency of all people is protected. Love to hear your thoughts, too.


About amymccreath

I'm a pastor and mother who loves to make connections between people, between ideas, and between stuff we label "sacred" and "secular." I aspire to be like a Cedar of Lebanon in the midst of the changes and chances of life, but like most folks, generally find that I can really only navigate the tumult hand in hand with others. Good coffee helps, too.
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One Response to Unblur the lines

  1. It is sad to me that a young woman artist, exploring her sexuality, chooses such a graphically demeaning way of doing so – but I think that says a lot about where we are as a culture regarding women’s sexuality. I too read that blog and thought something similar….I remember reading Beverly Harrison in our seminary ethics class, a particular article where she argues that men and boys must be (and become more so) accountable for sexuality/pregnancy/abortion issues. That was the first time I began to think of human sexuality in terms of true equality with dignity.

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